Everything Means Nothing If I Can’t Keep You

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“I need someone who sees the fire in my eyes and wants to play with it.” — lovethispic.com

I have a set of techniques that kept my lover coming back to me. Providing physical pleasure, other than sex, kept me in his thoughts.

Don’t get me wrong, scream and holler sex works great for establishing permanence but no one can have mind-blowing sex all the time. More is needed.

1. Lie in bed while rubbing warm baby oil over each other’s achy spots. Rub until your loved one is weak. The feel of warm blood coursing in relaxed muscles is intoxicating.

“Some people want diamond rings. Some just want everything, but everything means nothing if I ain’t got you.” Alicia Keys

2. Cuddling on a heated mattress pad with a heated blanket on top of you and talking creates memories. This technique works especially well after a hard workout: use heated pads with automatic shutoffs as this technique will put you to sleep.

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”

― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

3. Sit in a cool bubble bath together after a long day. The cool water drives out inflammation; the bubbles make the bath fun. Have a bottle of fresh lemon later handy to sip.

4. Slip into your favorite sexual position but don’t have sex. Instead, spend the time talking and laughing over the world’s foibles creates your little cocoon. The lingering memories of previous sex in that position make the undercoating of the conversation intriguing.

5. Gently rub your partner’s tummy and chest with scented oil until they fall asleep. This is an excellent surprise after a busy day. Put a small bit of oil behind your ears so when your love wakes in the morning, the scent of pleasure is on your skin.

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”